2022-10-17
I told a friend that I got accepted into college and would be leaving soon. She teared up. I did not think we were close enough to warrant that reaction. It was a pleasant surprise. It is surprising how much actually listening matters to people.
It is testament to how much better I’ve become social skills wise.
6 months, several books and way too many youtube videos later, I have become good enough to make close friends over time.
And there is SO MUCH space to improve. Looking at someone like Hamza and his relationship with his significant other is so inspiring. That is where one can reach, provided he creates enough value.
I would like to end this one in classic Hamza fashion, as a salute to him.
Do the hard work, especially when you don’t feel like it.
Edit:
I spoke to her and I realized it was mainly listening. It surprises me how if you can learn to listen and actually listen - ask questions and empathize with the other person, give sound advice when asked for it, how rare that is. And how much of a relationship you develop based on listening.
BRO, she now draws boundaries. My advice helped. I HAVE POSITIVELY INFLUENCED A LIFE, and in the long run. I helped cultivate a skill she will use for the rest of her life. I helped her learn to fish. Now she will be fishing for the rest of her life, ceteris paribus, which I know is a risky assumption to make.
Regardless, that excites me greatly. I am useful to others now. I am so happy, proud even, that I am.
The goal is to become a connector and deliver insane value. Hamza spoke about this.